What Did He Really Say?

by Dustin Goot
MSN.COM

1. When he says "I'll call you" …

He means "I may call you." This line isn't the slam dunk most women make it out to be. Besides being genuinely interested, there are a slew of reasons why a guy might ask for a number. He needs an ego boost. He wants a quick way to end the conversation. He bet his buddy he could score more digits. The thing to remember here is that if he's into you, he will find a way to call. And, no, e-mailing, Facebooking or Twittering at him in the meantime isn't going to help your case. Give the guy a chance to pursue you — if he doesn't, he's not the one for you anyway.

2. When he says "I like your shirt/necklace/shoes" …

He means, "You look good." He may have an ulterior motive when he compliments you, but that doesn't make the praise any less sincere. The fact is, men are generally terrible at false flattery. Instead of accusing us of feeding you a line, just feel good about the fact that we've noticed something about you that's attractive and memorable. Just don't ask us to remember the brand of those cute shoes.

3. When he says "I've been busy lately" …

If you've dated less than six months, he means: "I've lost interest in you." If you've dated longer than that, he means "I like you, but I need to focus on other things." Usually, this is the classic guy blow-off, but there are exceptions. If you've dated for a few months and your guy is usually there for you, don't hit the panic button over his recent short bouts of inattention.

4. When he says, "I need some space" …

He means, "This relationship is moving too fast." Nobody's thrilled to hear this one, but "I need space" isn't always the kiss of death. Often men get excited about a new relationship and then struggle to turn down the temperature when they're suddenly seeing you six nights a week. First, confirm that he still wants to date. Any answer besides yes means you should take your toothbrush and get out of there, ASAP. Once that's confirmed, revert to early courtship behavior. Make him schedule thoughtful dates in order to see you. If the spark returns, still insist on a couple of girls-only nights a week for the next several months.

5. When he says "I love spending time with you" …

He means, "I love you … I think." Guys are notoriously hesitant about dropping the L-bomb outright. When your man starts talking about how he loves specific aspects of the relationship, that's probably his way of dipping his toe in those waters. You should feel good about where things stand, even if the three magic words aren't directly uttered.

6. When he says "I don't believe in marriage" …

He means "I'm not going to marry you." This is one of those maddening statements you simply can't overanalyze. He may truly oppose the institution. He may be immature. He may not care for you deeply enough. In any case, you have a better chance of making out with Brad Pitt than waiting for him to "come around." Either enjoy his company for what it is or move on.

7. When he says, "I don't feel like it tonight" …

He means, "I don't feel like it tonight." It's hard not to take sexual refusal personally, but if you're with a guy you've been sleeping with regularly, you really shouldn't. Men don't enjoy sex with a woman one day and suddenly find her undesirable the next. Unless the problem persists, it means only that he's tired or stressed — or both. Give him a massage instead and wait for his libido to rebound in a day or two.

8. When he says "I want this to last forever" …

He means "I'm really happy right now." Most things a guy says about the future should be taken with a grain of salt.That doesn't mean men are unreliable jerks. But it does mean that when it comes to relationship stability, you should look at what your guy is doing instead of focusing on what he's saying. Is he physically affectionate? Does he remember things that are important to you? Does he support you when you need it?

10 Dating Truths You Can't Ignore

By Holly Eagleson
From msn.com

Truth #1: You'll regret that "Just wanted to make sure you got my last message" follow-up to an e-mail, text, or voicemail.

Truth #2: If you don't feel comfortable having a conversation with a guy about sex — especially condoms — you shouldn't be getting busy with him.

Truth #3: If a man breaks up with you out of the blue, the out-of-the-blue part is really only on your end.

Truth #4: Just as it's best to wait to drop the L-bomb until your man does, let a guy change his Facebook status to "in a relationship" before you do.

Truth #5: No woman in a healthy long-term relationship has ever said, "Gee, I really wish I'd slept with him sooner."

Truth #6: Keeping a change of clothes at work in case of an emergency walk of shame isn't optimistic behavior … it's career-savvy.

Truth #7: When a guy repeatedly refers to his exes as "crazy," "psycho," or "sluts," he will use those same words against you one day.

Truth #8: If a relationship feels like too much work after the first month, it'll be 10 times harder a year from now.

Truth #9: A guy who rates you or other girls as a number from 1 to 10 is a loser, even if he gives you a 10. You're a woman, not county fair livestock.

Truth #10: A guy who talks about how skilled he is in the sack is like a man who brags about his money. Either way, he ain't got it. The kind of man you want to be with knows that actions speak louder than words. And thankfully, there are plenty of those types out there!

19 Ways To A Girls Heart

1. Hugs from behind.
2. Grab her hand when you walk next to each other(don't make her grab yours).
3. When standing, wrap your arms around her.
4. Cuddle with her.
5. DON'T FORCE HER TO DO ANYTHING.
6. Write little notes.
7. Compliment her Honestly.
8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
9. Be super sweet to her.
10. Call her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
11. Comfort her when she cries.
12.Wipe away her tears
13. Love her with all your heart.
14. Pick her up and flirt with her (she'll scream and say put me down but really she loves it).
15. Be a gentleman (hold the door for her).
16. Don't let your friends talk trash about her, it'll get back 2 her!
& DONT ever act diff in front of ur friends than u r when its just u and her!!!!
17. Take her for a long walk at night!
18. Always bring a blanket where ever you go outside when its cold to comfort her and hold her close
19. NEVER LIE TO HER!!!!!! because then she will think everything you ever said to her was a lie, even "i love you"

How to Wreck Your Chances Before You Even Meet In Person...

Hello All....

I was sitting around thinking of something that really puts a wrench in most online dating and one thing that comes to mind is chatting. Chatting is a great way to get to know someone (kind of) before actually meeting them in person, but it could also mean a quick crash and burn before you ever get to that possible first date.

One thing that tends to bother women is the simple question "what do u like sexually", now i can see after meeting and maybe kind of dating for a bit before asking something like this, but not in the first five minutes of talking to a stranger. Look, there are a ton of sites out there that cater to that specifically , but if your intention is to find someone real, that approach is not going to work. Not only is it rude, but it's the perfect way to lose a potential partner.

The other important issue for women as well as men is respect, after all how do you expect the partner of your dreams to drop in your lap if the first thing you do or ask for is a nude pic being sent. That is a no no. Showing that you have respect in yourself is at times very appealing to the person that you're talking to, if not then they're just not the one for you. Besides, once it's online...it could show up anywhere!

Now to the point of "red flags"...if you sense them the best thing to do is run for dear life. You'll thank yourself later.

If at any time the conversation you're having starts to make you uncomfortable express it. If the person suddenly loses interest, don't worry it's not you, it will be obvious that they're looking for a FWB (friends with benefits) type situation and if that's not what you want then don't bother, it's not worth your time.

Hopefully this helps a little...good luck!

Taking The First Date Plunge

Howdy There Buckaroos, Captain Bob here with another round of dating tips.

Hopefully by now you have begun correspondence with one, two or possibly a few members of the opposite sex. If not, keep your stick on the ice and your fishing pole in the water it’s just a matter of time before you score a goal, get a bite on your line or perhaps even both.

For those of you who have begun the art of correspondence, you and your potential partner are hopefully ready to take that next step and go on a first date. With the ease of dating anonymity on the internet, I can’t help but leave a few words of caution. To all the men out there, it should be the woman’s choice and her choice alone whether or not she feels ready or not to take that next step with you and meet up for a first date.

No matter what you say or do, it still boils down to her choice. Guys, this may seem like a massive speed bump or immovable wall but she has to be sure that she feels comfortable with you. Captain Bob is right there with you in the trenches. My lady and I are taking it slow until she feels ready. I feel confident that I will pass her strict and through screening process with flying colors.

If you’ve read this far, I believe congratulations are in order. This means you have been approved for your first date. For first timers to internet dating, the first meet up can be really nerve-racking and down scary. It is essentially a blind date even if you have exchanged pictures and what not. Even some of us veterans get butterflies now and again.

There is a simple trick to making the first day go extremely smoothly. Through your correspondence, you and your potential partner have been dropping hints as to likes and dislikes. The smart dater makes sure to note both the likes and dislikes. A gift on the first date is not mandatory but highly recommended. Flowers are always a good stand by. However if you are willing to be a little more daring, try finding a gift that fits her personality. If music has come up in your chats, perhaps a CD of an artist in a genre he or she has expressed interest in.

Selecting the place for a date can be hard but it doesn’t have to be. Captain Bob recommends going to a coffee house. Avoid Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks. These are the coffee equivalent of fast food. If you want to have a shot at conversation, avoid the rush hours. If you are in Hartford, Connecticut, Captain Bob recommends JoJo’s Café on Pratt Street. If you don’t feel like staying put, a cup of coffee and your date can take the conversation on the road for a nice walk. With a little luck, the weather will be perfect.

Have pleasant casual conversations. PAY ATTENTION. The worst thing you could do on a date is not pay attention. Paying attention gives you many avenues for conversation. Once the coffee is done, this becomes a turning point. If for some reason you feel that the date is not going well and that can happen, this gives you an exit. Politely thank him or her for the coffee and conversation but be honest with them. Nobody wants to be led on date after date with the false hope of the possibility a relationship building. If you are not getting the negative vibes, ask them if they would like to get a second cup of coffee or perhaps even a second date.

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You're In The "Friend Zone" And Your Situation Seems Next To Impossible Right Now…

Don't worry guys, i know , no one wants to really be in the friend zone.But how many movies are out there that show that sometimes the friend turns into the perfect companion, boyfriend, husband?

Now, don't get me wrong, i know being in the friend zone sucks, but sometimes it's also necessary so that you can learn more about women in a more positive way.


I know how it feels. The both of you probably have something great going on; you absolutely love hanging out, being together with her, beyond a shadow of a doubt...

She feels the same too... she likes you, but ONLY as a friend. You seemed cool about it, but beneath that external façade, deep-rooted within your inner gut, you know you want something ‘much more’ than that.

Truth is, your heart longs to get past the “friends” stage and be that guy she “falls for” more than anything else... and you're probably shaking your head, confused as hell and feeling terribly unsure on what to do to progress to the ‘next level’ with her.

Does that sound familiar at all?
You're falling madly for her… you just know she's "the one"... the one who causes your palms to sweat, your heart to beat faster, and your stomach to flip whenever you hear her voice, smell her perfume, or even sense her being nearby.

"The one".

And as your affection for her grows stronger by the day, so does your feelings of insecurity … mainly because you couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way.

…Yet at the same time, like a jittery, scorching hot pressure cooker dying to blow its top, it's tearing you apart, more than you even care to admit… as you become more self-conscious and uneasy around her, fearing you might just “screw things up” if you confessed your true feelings for her.
It's Killing You Inside...

You're constantly guessing...

What if you finally decide to 'bite the bullet' and pour it all out; revealing how you truly feel for her, and as you're asking her to be your girlfriend, the only words that could come out of her shaky voice was…

"l... I... like you... but... can we just stay as friends?"

Uuuugh.

Your heart will shatter to pieces… your world, crumbling before your very own eyes… like a TON of bricks has fallen over your head… pounding mercilessly on your already weakened knees and shoulders.

Imagine the embarrassment, the depression and the PAIN you'll feel....

Imagine how AWKWARD it'll be for her then?

You obviously DON'T want that to happen as

Your Friendship Will NEVER Be The Same Again...

Honestly i feel really terrible for the guys that get stuck in "the zone", but at the same time i don't get it. I just can't seem to understand why men get so upset when you tell them you love them as a friend.

With the help of my male friends (oops) i've come to realize that is it a real problem that men have when dealing with women. NO ONE wants to be "the friend".
Maybe it's an ego thing, who knows, but there is help out there believe it or not.
There are countless Ebooks that help you get out of the ZONE...
I was blessed enough to come into contact with someone on the infamous Twitter that gave me a link to such a book and according to him it has a very success rate.

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What Not To Do (If You Consider Yourself A Nice Guy)

Ok, i'm going to share this with the world and i hope that some actually listen. Now I'm not trying to bash anyone, but this MUST be brought to the surface. (that's why i'm not using names)

As a little experiment i've talked to a few of my friends and we've all found it funny that there is a classification of "the nice guy" when it comes to the dating world. This is by far the most ingenious plan when it comes to men trying to impress women (outside the corny 70's lines). Now don't get me wrong there really are nice guys in this world, but when a man broadcasts it he's not one of  them.  Sort of like the rule that if a man has to brag about what he has down there then it's probably going to be more fun to watch paint dry for the night.....

Anyways, back to the subject! I'm really excited about this one because i've run into it so many times. (If I Had a Nickle For Everytime.....) Now you can spot this type a mile away, they give you the needy (I'm Shy) looks , but won't approach you. You're thinking for a second aww how sweet, but in the mean time they're sizing you up. If they do approach you after stalking you for a short time, then it's ON! 

Now ladies beware of these lines.........

"You're the most beautiful woman i've ever seen"

OH and "Can I Holla At You For A Minute"

There are a lot more , but we can't reveal all of our secrets now can we. 

We all know the signs of "i would be so happy if i could take you out to dinner" but it's never too long before the BS kicks in. 

I'll share a story with you.....

I met this man online and at first i was a little hesitant, but he seemed to be ok, so i took a chance and started talking to him a little more and some what got to know him. We chatted back and forth for a while online and eventually started talking on the phone and texting. It was fun and sorry to say as a woman i started to feel flattered by all the compliments and joking around. I'll admit, i did look forward to the texts and calls after a short time, all the while forgetting the woman rule . 

This went on for a few weeks and i finally got the courage to go on a date (he stressed the fact that he was a good guy), flags were screaming, but i decided against it and set up a time. Needless to say i fell into "the nice guy" trap. It was the standard, dinner and a movie , which i must admit i did have a good time. But the story ends at the door.

I know you can hear the funeral music can't you! It was talking in the car laughing a little and then the kiss good night.......

That sealed it (or so he thought) kissing turned into heavy petting and when told to stop, well let's just say that was the end of it. He gave me the standard smile and i'll call you tomorrow.

I'm sure some ladies can relate.

So men of the world...that routine is getting old and more women are catching onto the certain little signs. My advice....just be honest and upfront with what it is that you want and if you have to move on so be it.

Just a little to think about.........

Dating On The Web... A Captain Bob Update

Dating On the Web… An Captain Bob Update

Hello There… Captain Bob (willrain) bringing all you readers another Captain Bob tip. I wanted to write a follow up to my first article on dating survival on the web. In my first article, I came up with three simple rules or questions to ask keep in mind when trying to sift through the many posts on any personals website.
• "Is this ad from a real person?"
• "Is he or she just looking for sex?"
• "Can I relate to the poster?"

Once you have filtered through the ads, hopefully you have found a few worthy enough of your response. When composing a reply to an ad the number one rule is to be original.
Being original and unique, gives you an advantage and allows you to stand out. One of my favorite ways to win attention in a reply is using poetry. If the ad is posted with a picture, you could write a short customized poem about her picture. This one I wrote for my current sweetheart in my first reply.

“For You”
She has those chocolate brown eyes
They send me dreaming into the skies
Her black wavy hair was caught in a breeze
Her lovely looks made me weak in the knees
Replying by lying to her would not be wise

If you suffer from the lack of poem creativity, feel free to borrow one of your favorites from a favorite author. Hell, Hallmarks cards have saved even me when I was facing major writer’s block. Make sure that you tell her that you borrowed it from a card though. Say, “I found this little thing and it reminded me of you perfectly.” Something like that. If you have a good reliable funny bone, use it. One thing every human like to do is laugh. Women tell me over and over again, that a sense of humor is one of the top things that they look for.

Don’t forget that the poem and or joke are just openers to your reply. You still have to tell give a description of who you are and what you are looking for. Essentially, you are writing an ad but you are only posting to one person. One big hint is not to lie in your reply. If you have to resort to lying in your reply, you probably won’t make it past the first date. Let him or her know who you are up front. Make sure that your response is longer than three lines unless you can be extremely concise.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind
• Longer than three lines
• Be 100% Honest
• Perfect grammar, no spelling errors or weird characters such as “æ”
• Include hobbies, jobs, interests
• Include a picture if you are responding to an ad with a picture*
*The poster took the risk to put their image out there, least you could do is send a real one back.

Once you have finished the body of your response, feel free to use a cute closing salutation. One of my favorites is “Cheers” because I would like to thank them for reading my response. It’s not a cover letter for a job application. Have some fun with it and you will stand out.

It’s worked for me a Captain Bob Guarantee.

Dating 101...or 102 0r 103..

Hi again..
I thought i would appeal to the male population in reguards to finding a possible mate. Now let's get away from the one night stands and so forth, i'm talking about really dating.

I've come acrossed a lot of men that want to be single and run around , but there are those few that want to find that girl of their dreams, so either way sit back and listen.

Women aren't as complicated as they seem (well most of them) we are very simple creatures when we're not hormonal. We get up, do our routines, feed the kids (if we have them) and check the mirror to see if our asses look fat in that outfit..

Now it may seem strange to you that a woman wants to help you understand women and that's ok, but someone has to right?

Subject...online dating (the nightmare)

Most women are very skeptical about finding love online, but in this day and age it's easier than dealing with drunk people at a bar or hoping that someone will approach you at a store. We spend a lot of time in the bathroom and our closets finding that perfect look only to be shot down when you give a little smile standing in line at the grocery store.
One thing i've experienced is being watched while walking around and having the man NEVER say a word. Is it that he's afraid of rejection? Or he has food on his shirt? Who knows, but the fact of the matter is he says nothing.

So when it comes to online dating we have the same reservations about men. You start chatting, think there's a connection and he moves on to the next best thing. Online dating has caused most women to have NO self esteem what so ever. You can't have a few extra pounds or you're rejected...you can't be a certain ethnicity or you're rejected....you can't have kids or you're rejected...either way, you're rejected!
And the ultimate...if you're not spread all over a bed half dressed then you're just not what he's looking for.

Do i know why this is? I wish i did, at least i could make some sense of it. There are more singles around then there are married couples, why is that?, well mostly because no one communicates, and thats something that needs to be addressed. When i go online to "meet someone" i look for key things:

1)does he like kids?
2)is he married?
3) is he looking for long term?
4)does he have a girlfriend?

Not all women are interested in a profile that states relationship status: "it's complicated"...only thing that means to a woman that's really looking for someone is that you're married or in a relationship and all you're looking to do is have fun on the side. I'm sure that there are some women out there are into that sort of thing, but NOT ALL!!!

This is a little something to get you started, but in the future, believe me there will be more......

Captain Bob's Dating Tips...a man's point of view

Hey there, it's Captain Bob with a little guide to surviving dating on the internet. The first installment of my little guide is the online world of Craigslist. Craigslist is a large classified networking website that provides free online advertisements. These advertisements range from ads about jobs to internships, housing and even personals.

Now that we've gotten the introduction to Craigslist out of the way, it's time to get down to finding a date. The many personals page of CL appeals to any sexual orientation out there. However, navigating it and finding someone worthy of your contact can be very treacherous. The first clues begins with the ads title. A lot of spam ads can be thrown out just on their title alone.

Some titles include:

On the women seeking men side; On the men seeking women side;


"BEST RACK EVER" "Generous man looking for a needy
":) HOT, FUN, WILD" ($$$) girl
"I have herpes" " End of world sex"
" Tired of going to prostitutes

If you decide to post an ad about yourself and you want to be successful, Captain Bob urges you to stay away from the types of titles you see above at all costs. The opposite sex will be reviewing your posts with questions like these in mind,

"is this ad from a real person?"
"is he or she just looking for sex?"
" can i relate to the poster?"

Believe it or not, the threads title usually answers these questions almost immediately.

Another tip on titles is the location part of the ad. Look for a specific town or zip code. Spam ads will usually use the general area of the Craigslist page. For example, if an ad uses Western Mass instead of specific towns such as Springfield or Chicopee then most likely it's a spam ad.

Granted, that shouldn't be a deal breaker, it's just something to keep in mind.
Once you have weeded through the titles, hopefully you have found a few worthy of investigation. This next one brings us to the meat of the ad, try avoiding all short and vague ads. Anything under three lines is a good rule to follow. How can you get to know someone in three lines or less? For the meat of the post, stick to rule number three, "can i relate to the poster?", it's mostly common sense. Don't reply to an ad that's looking for a Dominate or Submissive if you aren't into the BDSM scene.



1) The ad should be longer than three lines
2) Avoid ads with really bad grammer, spelling mistakes or weird characters
3) Avoid any ad with a link to another website, even Myspace (save the links for
personal contacts.
4) In the age of Photoshop, take photos at face value. Do they match up reasonably
with the ads posting age? Not to mention if you have seen the same photo to
another post advertising different things.

However, don't be afraid of taking chances. Say a woman posted that she is looking for a man who's just out of her age range....if you share the same interests as her, keep it in mind that age is just a number. If you feel that you fit what she's looking for send a response and plead your case.

You can trust Captain Bob, i'm speaking from experience.

To wrap it all up, Captain Bob recommends that you trust your gut, use common sense and Discretion when looking for love online.

Without Embarrassment...The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System

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I'm especially talking about that galaxy of mojo-stealing ruminations and fears which are based upon deeply-seated internalized shame and self-hatreds. These monsters can quietly begin to take over your consciousness until they eventually ruin entire aspects of your life.
nd in no place is this more apparent than in your personal relationships. Or lack thereof.

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Just take a look at the vast spectrum of topics addressed in Without Embarrassment:


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When it comes to Love, if you're like most women,you've been deceived... and maybe more deeply than you've realized.

You've been misled.

Tricked.

Lied to, even.

Not necessarily by men (though of course that happens)-- but lied to about men.

Lied to, by well-meaning people, about how men think and feel... and about how to create and nurture true passion and true connection.

So that sense of connection you've waited for has stayed just out of reach. Or, worse, it's been there--and then fizzled out.

Now, despite what some people have told you, you know there's no Prince Charming, there's no savior on horseback coming to sweep you away to a castle. You know that, and you're okay with it.

But isn't there something better? Something better than you've had so far? Something better than what you see around you all the time--all the "happy" couples, the look of that woman who insists that everything's fine, but who you can sense is as bored and edgy and frustrated as a tigress in a cage?

Hasn't there always been the suggestion--faint, but inescapable--that if you are just good enough, and nice enough, and loving enough, and faithful enough, and, well, everything enough, that Mr. Right will come along? And that Mr. Right will act the right way? And that Mr. Right will stick around?

Sorry to say ladies, but you weren't told the truth. As some of you know it's very difficult to find a "nice guy" let alone Mr. Right. The days of Cinderella are only in the books and we have to be very careful of who we associate ourselves with.

How many of you have gone out for a dinner and a movie only to get bullied into a "passionate" kiss when all you wanted to do is say goodnight? Men don't realize or just don't care to think that not all women see a simple date as a way to leap into the sheets with someone you really don't know that well. Now i'm not saying all men are out to get what they want , but the ones that do end up wrecking things for the ones that are legitimately nice.

What i can't seem to understand is why it's so difficult to show respect to someone you supposedly "like". Not all encounters with the opposite sex are doorways to sex, sorry to be the one to tell you.

What do women want? We want to be treated with respect and understanding. We want the person to WANT to be there, not put on an act to satisfy their own needs.

Think about that....